In this episode, Tom chats with Kassie Moon. They talk about her long journey to motherhood via Youtube and health coaching.
3 Must-Hear Takeaways from this episode
You can’t do it alone, it takes a community.
Sometimes, you have to hit rock bottom before you can get back up and try again.
It’s okay to not project the perfect life. There’s freedom in being vulnerable and admit that you have struggles.
Kassie Moon is the self-described California Girl who always wanted to be a mother.
“I always wanted to be a mom. When I was in school and they asked what I wanted to be, I said, ‘A mom,’” Kassie said.
However, she had to fight to make her dream a reality. She had a multi-year experience with IVF. Over the course of her 7-year journey to motherhood, she had to overcome depression, a near divorce, self discovery, start a Youtube channel, and battle to reclaim her health.
Tom: To say you’re built to be a mom, is that sexist? Is it limiting your ability? What is your take on that from a women’s perspective?
Kassie: There is pressure because you’re in your early 20’s and don’t have kids. I don’t think the same pressure is on men. As a married couple and you decide to not have kids, it’s a different situation.
Tom: How has your background of a split family shaped who you are in your own family?
Kassie: We’ve been married for nine years now and there’s been real struggles. For me, I feel like it’s taught me to know what I want. It’s given me a drive to fight harder because my parents didn’t show that to me.
Tom: So you grew up wanting to be a mother, you get married and things aren’t going according to plan. How was that journey?
Kassie: Before Brandon, I wasn’t living the best lifestyle. I met him and we got married within a year, then it was we will have kids right away and it’ll be perfect. Two years went by and that’s when we reached out to help from doctors. It became really stressful, depressing, and hard. It took us 7 years to go through IVF. It was not the fairytale I wanted.
Tom: In life, we get paralyzed by failure. How did you keep pursuing instead of giving up?
Kassie: After the 3-year mark, I got depressed and almost gave up. So, I had to do something and help others going through this. Social media was a big deal and I started a Youtube channel. In that, I found a community of people going through the same thing and we could help each other. The community I created gave me a lot of help.
Tom: What did it take to cultivate the grit to not quit?
Kassie: I feel like I had to hit rock bottom. That’s not encouraging, but I had to fall and try to get myself back up with people surrounding me. It was the reaching out to other people for help, because you can’t do it alone.
Tom: What is it that causes people to give up on that goal for their lives?
Kassie: In this day and age of Instagram, you have to be perfect. I think people are scared to be vulnerable and admit things aren’t going perfectly. All we see is the highlight reel of people’s lives, so it’s embarrassing to say that things are hard.
Tom: You’re a health coach. What does that look like and what’s your mission?
Kassie: During infertility, I was overweight and desperate. I found health and lost 55 lbs. and found the strength to try. Feeling good is amazing and I wanted to help other people. Now, as a health coach, working from home and full time as a mom is difficult, but I prioritize time. That’s the beauty of working from home, I get to create my own hours.
Tom: What is a tool or resource you use?
Kassie: I love podcasts, my AirPods are always in my ears because they’re a great resource. Youtube as well, I started a Youtube channel because I needed it. Everything is on Youtube.
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